Thoughts on real life...

You can’t change everything!







Some things are out of our circle of control:

Let’s get real here. Some things are out of our circle of control. It’s that simple. Focus on what you can control:

Your life becomes much more tolerable when you focus on what you can control.

Some examples are:
Your thoughts – positive and negative
Your daily habits
How much you watch T.V.
The amount your are eating.
The amount of your time that you give to others
The amount of fun in your life.

People working in the area of personal and professional development are just like everybody else. How could we possibly know about these things without experiencing them? The difference is we have a toolbox from which to pick out that tool that will “fix” things as best we can.

Questions for you:

What are you reading?
How much of your life is habitual?
How successful has whinging and moaning been to date?
Does watching endless T.V. help you achieve the kind of life you want?
What can you do to replace the food you eat because you are bored?
What can you do to stop becoming bored?
How could you stop running around after everyone else?
What makes you laugh and when did you last laugh?

Focus on what you can control:

If you focus on what you can control then you won’t feel as if life is controlling you! Start to focus on what makes you feel good. Listen to the kind of music you like until you are bopping! It does not necessarily need to be costly to feel good. What are you saying repeatedly to yourself in your head?

Here are some ideas for positive change in your life:

Reading positive literature will have a profound effect on your mindset.
A short walk each evening is a start towards a new fitness regime.
List the daily habits that are not serving you well. Change them!
Stop moaning and start living.
What have you always wanted to do but haven’t. You can give up some TV!
If you are eating because you are bored, you need to DO something!
Stop running after everyone and start walking towards a new life.

Be your own chemist:

Laughter is the very best medicine. Be your own chemist. Lighten up.

We may move house, we may change cars, we may even change the colour of our hair. However, we only have one life! So live it!

What are your Talents?






What are your Talents?

Everyone is born with talents. It may be that you are a great talker. You might be a great fisherman. You may be someone who can write with effortless ease. Whatever your talent, my question is:

Are you using the natural talents you were born with?
Are you going through your whole life putting off that book that you know you could write? Or what about that picture that you know you could paint? At the end of your life, your natural talent will be no more. If unused, consider how sad it would be. Imagine giving a really beautiful present to someone.

You have taken great care to give them that something special, a once-off item. You gift wrap it. You put on those nice ribbons and bows on that special present. And then, when you give that present with all your heart, it is tossed in a dark corner and never opened.

Not using your natural talents is like leaving a beautiful present unwrapped.

It might be that you are a great photographer. Imagine if you focused on creating great photos. They exist forever. They could be timeless. They could form part of history.

Have you ever been in the company of someone who plays a musical instrument and makes it sing and dance? Are you one of those people who constantly hear others say “I would love to be able to do that”? They are talking about you!

Your natural talent is a gift

It has been bestowed on you and you alone. Don’t waste that precious gift. You were born to shine. Find that gift inside you, share it, and be who you were truly meant to be.

What do you think?

Values Do You Know What Yours Are?






Values, what are they?

Values are the things that are really important to you; whether personally or in business. By identifying your values you are saying this is the code I am living by. The following are examples of some values for you to reflect on:


How are your values reflected in your roles in life?
Let’s say the list above is a list of your life values. Based on this, here are a few questions:

How do you show respect to those who are important to you?
When is your integrity evident?
When do you show love – even to yourself?
Where does your family come in the scheme of things?
What does friendship mean to you?
Do you spend money wisely?
How much fun do you have in life?
What is the one thing you can do that will guarantee you burst out laughing?

Having real values will help you.

You will look more organically at what is important to you. Remember, we all have different values. The above lists are just to get your creative juices flowing. Find your own values, listen to your heart.  Then, experience a life that is based on what is truly important to you in business or life – or both.

Start now:

List your top 5 values (personal/business) – make your own list.
If you are in conflict about any issues, look to your values for guidance. Watch how things change.

If you live by your values, it’s like having your own internal sat nav. You may occasionally take the wrong turn but in reality you are going in the right direction.

What do you think?

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